Trauma is defined as “a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.”
We know how to define it but how do we heal it??
I have been contemplating what heals? To find the answers, I did three things.
1. I looked back on my own journey in healing.
2. I started a list of the people that I know who inspire me.
3. I reached out AND I asked questions.
I have had some really AMAZING conversations about healing from past wounds. I have spoken with former trauma support group members, coaching clients, friends, loved ones and other professionals in the mental health and healing fields. The consensus is that talking about the wounds only goes so far AND quite honestly, it can keep us STUCK! There comes a point where we have to say, WHAT’S NEXT? What do I really want out of this beautiful, crazy, life AND how can I CREATE it?
Some of the strategies that I want to share…
STOP! BREATH AND LISTEN (INTUITION SHOWS UP WHEN YOU TAKE THE TIME TO QUIET YOUR MIND).
TAKE SOME TIME IN A QUIET, SAFE SPACE AND…CONTEMPLATE…
I LOVE ME BECAUSE____________________________________________________________________!!!
CREATE A MANTRA FOR YOURSELF: I AM_________________(FILL IN THE BLANK WITH THE TRAIT/QUALITY/THING YOU ARE MANIFESTING)
SHARE GRATITUDE! TODAY, I AM GRATEFUL FOR______________________AND I SHOW IT BY__________________!
Whatever your path to healing is, remember it is YOUR PATH. There is no right or wrong way to heal. It is an ART not a Science. Progress is not always linear. In fact, it is more like a spiral of moving forward and then circling back a little and then building on the momentum from the first step forward to move even further along the path. Although it may be discouraging that we are forced to re-live some of the tough stuff over and over, it is also an opportunity to really and truly heal and transform it.
My theory on healing is this…. Healing is an A.R.T.
Acknowledge-It happened. Speak about what it means that it happened. Write about it. Draw it. Do what it takes to get it out and share how it feels. Honor your emotions.
Respond-Observe how you show up in life. AND take time to contemplate how you WANT to show up. Who do you want to BE going forward AND what avenues can you explore to be your True self? Listen to your intuition and take thoughtful action.
Transform–Follow any path that moves you forward. Trust your instincts. Explore your options by participating in any and all activities that allow you to change the way that you see yourself in relationship to the trauma. (The trauma doesn’t go away, but we do choose how and how much it affects us).
This is YOUR PATH and you know the way if you trust and allow yourself to go inward in any fashion that suits you. Block out the noise and give yourself permission to EXPLORE. You may be surprised to find that the transformation is in the exploration!